Quick With The Ear, Slow With The Tongue!

LOQUACIOUSNESS (TALKATIVENESS)

Talking is good, especially when you get paid for it. Unfortunately, most of us talk a lot but we never get paid for it.

It’s surprising, isn’t it?

Look at this:

20% of the world’s people are millionaires. Out of them, about 99% are orators or speakers as well as authors. What do they do...? They talk! The more they talk, the higher they get paid. Also they don’t just talk but make sure their talks are put on paper.

80% of the world’s people manage the remaining 20% of the world’s wealth. They talk too much! The more they do that the highly impoverished they become. Since their talks lack content, they can’t be put on paper.

From the above, we will notice that not only do the millionaires control 80% of the world’s wealth, but they control 80% of their speeches as well. They talk! Yes, they talk, but succinctly and constructively.

Those who get impoverished also talk, but they talk gratuitously and excessively. The more they talk, the more unbridled their speeches get.

You see, there are no secrets or shortcuts to success. Your self-discipline and control over your speech and parlance will do the trick.

John Lyle Harrington once said, “Language has a large weight in classifying a man – infinitely more than dress. It exhibits his breeding and indicates his social status.”

Your talk, indeed, classifies you and determines to a larger extent, the status you’ll fit into in life. It shapes your personality and creates the kind of impression people have or will have about you. It brings out the real you.

Do you wonder why people get irritated, any time you open your mouth to speak? Check your speeches; they might be foolish, verbose or boring. Never speak your mind, mind your speech.

You might need to be reticent sometime; it will help. Even fools are considered wise when they keep quite. Speech is silver, silence is gold. Think about it!

Mind you, timidity is not reticence, it is merely stupidity.

May be just like me, you’ve been trying and still fighting with this bad habit of excessive talking. You wish God could take your voice so you could become dumb.

You always wish and wish, for your spirit is willing, but often you fail to remain silent for once. You’ve started hating yourself for this and you are unsure of your becoming who you’ve dreamt to be.

Any time you seem to have an iota of hope to put things right, a shadow of ambivalence casts itself on it; you get confused and feel like giving up.

NO! Not yet…

There’s a way!

I was once in your position. Through curiosity and being extremely critical, I became a talkative without knowing it. Though loved by many, indirectly, I was constantly notified of my bad habit which made me feel lonely and empty.

Out of shame and frustration, I started playing the defense; making excuses to justify my talking too much. This defensive game attitude gradually progressed into unnecessary lying. It never helped.

Seeing how badly I will be affected in the future, I sat myself down, did some assessments, and afterward resolved to change. Nothing will change if you don’t acknowledge the need for change.

A great poet, John Milton, also said, “To excuse our faults on the ground of our weakness is to quiet our fears at the expense of our hopes”

These are some little changes I made which you may need to consider as well.

- To begin with, say this words solemnly and affirmatively, ‘YES I CAN!’

- Learn a lesson from the Creator. Your ears were made opened but your mouth was made to close; quick with your ears, slow with your mouth.

- Be a good conversationalist. Listen more talk less but judiciously.

- Be laconic in speech.

- Accept criticism. Our enemies’ opinions about us might be right because they see us and we don’t see ourselves.

- Maintain daily and self-discipline

Make these changes and the shackles of loquaciousness will be broken off you.






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